I regret my life
Most of us have experienced that pivotal peak of pain, anger, or frustration in which we want to scream “I hate my life.” Yet, the feeling that a dark cloud has specifically settled over us and our experiences can feel pretty isolating. The truth is, no matter how singled out or overwhelmed we feel, and no matter what area we are struggling in, we are not alone.
More than half of U.S. workers are unhappy with their job. One in 10 Americans struggles with depression. All of us have moments of utter despair. Escaping from this hopeless-seeming state may feel impossible. Yet, in reality, we are not doomed, and we are not powerless. No matter what our circumstances, we can all learn tools to help us emerge from the darkest moments in our lives.
There are many actions we can take when we feel turned against ourselves and our lives.
Practice mindfulness – Mindfulness is a practice that teaches us how to let go of thoughts that are destructive or undesirable. It has been proven to reduce stress, fight depression and lead to overall benefits in health and well-being. Mindfulness meditation can help us to acknowledge these thoughts as momentary feelings that will pass like clouds over a mountain. Learn more about mindfulness.
Conquer your critical inner voice – Voice Therapy is a method developed by Dr. Robert Firestone. The five steps of this therapeutic process allow people to identify, respond to, and challenge their critical inner voice while recognizing where this inner enemy comes from. Learn more about Voice Therapy.
Realize your personal power – No matter what life throws at us, taking a victim mentality only makes us suffer more. By realizing the ways we have power over our lives, we can feel stronger and more resilient in any obstacle we face.
Seek help – Going to therapy is an action that would benefit everyone. There is no shame in seeking help. In fact, it is an act of bravery and strength. No matter where you are in the world or what your economic status is, help is available. Samaritans.org is a great international resource to find help. If you or someone you know is in crisis in the United States, you can call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 24/7 at 1 (800) 273-8255 or visit them online.
If a situation is not going well, we can change it, or we can view it in another way and look for the positive aspects.
If a relationship has soured and there’s no going back, don’t regret it, look at some of the wonderful things you did together and the fun times you had.
If you didn’t do something that was right for you, don’t regret it – if the opportunity wasn’t there in front of your face, then perhaps it just wasn’t meant to be.
Life is about taking risks and sometimes they pay off; other times not so much! You can always learn from past experiences.
Sources:
- https://youtu.be/d_ep1VAnHrs
- https://www.psychalive.org/i-hate-my-life/
- https://lifestylefifty.com/how-to-stop-living-with-regret/
- https://drmelaniegreenberg.com/3-negative-mindsets-hold-back-guilt-perfectionism-regret/
- https://www.conference-board.org/research/job-satisfaction/job-satisfaction-2014
- https://us-east-2.console.aws.amazon.com/polly/home/SynthesizeSpeech
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